Sex Hacks That Actually Work (And No, It’s Not Just Kegels)
- Filip
- May 28
- 3 min read
Most Sex Advice for Men Is Trash
It’s usually either patronizing, pseudoscientific, or straight-up unrealistic. You're told to "channel your inner god" or master 500 tantric positions while clenching your pelvic floor until you levitate.Sure, Kegels help. But they’re far from the full picture.
What actually improves your sex life? Consistency, awareness, communication — and a few surprising tweaks that can change the game in and out of bed.
1. Stop Chasing Performance. Start Building Connection.
Let’s get this one out of the way: good sex isn't about pounding harder or lasting longer — it's about being present. A major shift happens when you stop trying to perform and start tuning in.
Try:
Eye contact during foreplay.
Slowing down rather than speeding up.
Asking what your partner wants rather than guessing.
Performance anxiety kills desire. Curiosity revives it.
2. Train Your Breath, Not Just Your Body
Most men rush toward orgasm like it’s a finish line. But mastering your breath can control arousal and extend pleasure.
The trick: Inhale deeply through your nose, exhale slowly through your mouth — especially as you near climax.This regulates your nervous system and keeps blood flowing where it matters.
Bonus: It also improves erections and helps delay ejaculation.
3. Try the Start-Stop Method (Seriously, It Works)
It’s clinical-sounding, but the start-stop technique is one of the most effective methods for improving stamina — without pills or numbing sprays.
How it works:
During sex or solo play, stop right before orgasm.
Breathe. Relax. Resume.
Repeat a few times before climax.
It trains your arousal threshold and rewires your brain to enjoy the build-up instead of rushing to release.
4. Explore New Erogenous Zones — Yours Included
There’s more to male pleasure than the penis.
Game-changing zones to explore:
Perineum (aka the area between the balls and anus)
Inner thighs
Nipples (seriously)
Neck, ears, and lower back
Using toys like vibrating cock rings or prostate massagers can open up a whole new world — and often lead to stronger, more full-body orgasms.
5. Use Lube. Yes, Even If You Think You Don’t Need It
Whether with a partner or solo, lube changes everything.
Why it matters:
Reduces friction
Enhances sensation
Can help with stamina (slows things down)
Top picks:
Sliquid H2O (water-based)
Uberlube (silicone-based)
Foria Awaken (with natural arousal oils)
6. Upgrade Your Diet (Just a Bit)
Your circulation and testosterone levels are heavily affected by what you eat.
Easy swaps:
Add: leafy greens, berries, dark chocolate, fatty fish, walnuts
Reduce: processed sugar, excess alcohol, and anything deep-fried
Bonus? These foods also support mental clarity and mood — which translates to confidence in bed.
7. Talk About Sex — Before You’re Having It
One of the most underrated sex hacks is communication. What turns you on? What feels good? What doesn't?
Having open conversations outside the bedroom leads to less pressure inside it. And nothing kills bad sex faster than knowing how to make it better.
8. Experiment With Positions That Support Control
Spoiler: missionary isn’t basic — it’s underrated. So is spooning.
Why it works:These positions give you more control over thrust, depth, and pace, which can improve stamina and help prevent overstimulation.
Also, switch things up: if you feel you're getting close too soon, change position or pause to kiss or touch instead.
9. Embrace Toys and Tech
Think toys are just for vulvas? Think again.
For men & couples:
We-Vibe Bond — wearable penis ring
Nexus Revo — prostate massager
Fun Factory Cobra Libre II — targeted for penis stimulation
These elevate sensation and make sex feel new — even if you've been with your partner for years.
10. Stop Watching Porn Like It’s Real Life
Porn can be fun. But it shouldn't be your only reference point.If you're always watching fantasy-level sex, your body may respond less to reality. Take breaks, reset your expectations, and watch together with a partner if you're into it.
Better sex isn't about chasing "alpha" performance — it's about becoming more present, more open, and more in tune with your body and your partner. The hacks that work are the ones that focus on awareness, not ego.
And yes, do your Kegels. But also… do all of this.
