Tantric Masturbation for Men (That Isn’t Just Edging in Disguise)
- Filip
- Apr 28
- 4 min read
Most of us have spent an ungodly amount of time in the pursuit of “perfect” masturbation—usually involving ahem fast strokes, quick finishes, and the occasional “why am I doing this?” moment. But what if there was a way to turn your solo sessions into something mind-blowing? Something that goes beyond the usual routine. Enter: tantric masturbation.
It’s the art of self-pleasure with a twist. Tantric masturbation isn’t just about teasing the hell out of yourself and then getting off. It’s about making your body your temple and your pleasure the prayer. Forget the frenzied “edging” that often leaves you frustrated (but oddly satisfied in a weird way). Tantra is about exploring sensation, breath, and presence in a way that’ll make you rethink your entire approach to solo sex.
The Key to Tantric Masturbation: Mindfulness Over Mechanical
If you’ve ever felt like your masturbation routine is a game of “how fast can I get this over with”, tantric masturbation is your remedy. It’s not about the endgame—it’s about the journey. Tantric sex is grounded in presence and awareness, and this extends to your solo sex life too.
It’s about slowing down, tapping into your body’s energy, and consciously exploring each sensation. No more mindlessly reaching for the lube and thinking about your grocery list. This is about tuning into your physicality and connecting to your energy. It’s not about the quick climax—it’s about building up slow, deep satisfaction, where the pleasure feels like an endless wave.
How to Get Started (No Retreat Required)
You don’t need to book a flight to India or buy a ton of tantric manuals to get started with tantric masturbation. You just need to approach your own body with a little more curiosity.
1. Set the Scene (For Yourself)
Tantra is all about creating an atmosphere that feels right. Light a candle (not for the Instagram picture, I promise it’s an actual mood setter). Set the room up so it feels like a sensual haven. This isn’t just about “getting off”—this is about enjoying the experience.
2. Slow Down
So, you’re not going for a quickie. Get comfortable. Start slow—don’t rush straight into the action. Spend time on your body. Maybe start with a warm-up: rub your chest, touch your arms, feel your skin. Take a moment to check in with yourself. Your body is the playground, and this is just the warm-up.
3. Focus on Your Breath
Breathing is everything in tantra. Your breath helps you tap into your energy, stay present, and build intensity. Inhale deeply through your nose, hold, then exhale slowly. Repeat. Focus on the flow of energy in your body. It’ll help you stay centered and extend the pleasure, rather than speeding towards a rushed climax.
4. Exploring Sensation Instead of Speed
When you start touching yourself, focus on the sensation, not the destination. This isn’t a race to orgasm—it’s about experiencing every little shift and movement in your body. Run your hands slowly over your chest, down to your abdomen, and explore your genitals in the same slow, deliberate way. Let every touch become its own mini-pleasure.
5. Edge (But with Purpose)
Okay, you can edge—but make it intentional. Instead of edging to just delay your climax, use it as a way to intensify your pleasure. Focus on the building sensations without feeling the pressure to explode. When you’re near the edge, stop and breathe, bringing the energy back down before you start again. The slower, the better. Trust me, when you finally do reach that orgasm, it’ll feel like fireworks.
6. Play with Energy
One key aspect of tantric masturbation is energy play. You’re not just playing with your physical body—you’re playing with energy. Focus on your root chakra (the one at the base of your spine) and imagine the sexual energy building there. As you breathe and build intensity, you can feel this energy moving up your body. It’s like a wave that swells and swells, but you’re the one in control.
The Mind-Body Connection
The beauty of tantric masturbation is that it builds a connection between your mind and body. It’s not about zoning out—it’s about tuning in. You’ll notice that once you start practicing tantra, your mind becomes a part of the experience, not just something to get out of the way. That deeper connection creates a richer orgasmic experience that lasts longer and feels more fulfilling.
Plus, it trains you to be more in control during sex. That ability to hold off, slow down, and really feel everything is something you can carry into your partnered experiences as well. Who doesn’t want to last longer and feel better while doing it?
The Result: Intensity and Satisfaction Without the Guilt
When you practice tantric masturbation, you're not just creating the possibility for more powerful orgasms (though, yes, that too). You're also shifting your mindset. It’s about enjoying your body without shame or pressure. You’re not just checking a box or rushing through a to-do list. You're creating something intimate and expansive with yourself.
That intense, slow pleasure? It’s not just a fleeting moment. It’s a practice that can make you more connected to yourself, your body, and your partner. So forget the rush. Forget the guilt. Start savoring the experience—because the journey is where the true satisfaction lies.
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