Rimming, Pegging, and the Rise of Anal Equality
- Filip
- Jul 30
- 4 min read
Once whispered about or confined to the fringes of porn, anal pleasure for men is entering the cultural mainstream. And not just for queer men — straight men, cis men, and couples of all configurations are rethinking what goes where, who does what, and why it’s worth talking about.
At the center of it all: rimming, pegging, and prostate play. Three practices that challenge outdated ideas about gender, dominance, and the body. More men are getting curious. More partners are picking up the strap. And more people are realizing that there’s nothing inherently submissive — or shameful — about wanting to feel more.
This isn’t just about kinks. It’s about anatomy, access, and the slow cultural shift toward anal equality.
The Case for Anal: Why It Feels Good
Here’s the truth: the male body is built for anal pleasure. The prostate — sometimes called the male G-spot — is located just a few inches inside the anus, and when stimulated, it can produce full-body, toe-curling orgasms that feel totally different from typical penile ones.
Add to that the dense nerve endings around the anus and perineum, and you’ve got an area that’s sensitive, responsive, and capable of delivering a level of intensity many men never knew was possible.
Still, the stigma runs deep — often reinforced by ideas about masculinity, control, or what’s considered “normal.” But more people are starting to realize that pleasure doesn’t have a gender, and penetration doesn’t dictate power.
1. Rimming (Anilingus): Intimacy at Its Most Vulnerable
What it is: Oral stimulation of the anus, often used as foreplay or part of longer anal scenes.
Why people love it: Rimming is intimate, taboo, and extremely nerve-rich. It can be a gateway to deeper anal exploration or a standalone act of intense pleasure and trust.
Getting started:
Hygiene matters: A quick shower or gentle wipe can go a long way for comfort.
Positions: Lying on your back with legs lifted, doggy style, or lying face down can all work — comfort is key.
Technique: Use your tongue slowly at first. Circles, pressure, suction — experiment and communicate.
Important: Consent and clear discussion are non-negotiable. This is one of the most intimate forms of oral play — physically and psychologically.
2. Pegging: The Strap-On Reversal
What it is: When a partner (often a cis woman) uses a strap-on to penetrate a man anally. Once a niche kink, now a growing curiosity — and for many, a regular part of their sex lives.
Why it’s booming: Pegging flips gender roles, opens up new kinds of pleasure, and can be deeply affirming for couples looking to play with power in safe, structured ways.
Pegging Guide for Beginners:
Start with fingers or toys — the prostate is only a few inches inside.
Strap-ons come in different sizes — begin small, go slow.
Position matters — doggy style, missionary, or lying on the side can offer control and visibility.
Use plenty of lube — always water- or silicone-based (never oil, due to allergies and hygiene).
Safewords help — even in loving, non-kinky contexts.
Common fears:
“Does this make me gay?” → Sexual acts do not determine orientation.
“Will it hurt?” → Not if done with care, communication, and patience.
“Is it weird to want this?” → Not even slightly.
“The first time I got pegged, I felt two things: intense physical pleasure and a huge emotional release. Like I didn’t have to perform anymore. I could just feel.”
3. Prostate Play: The Core of Male Anal Pleasure
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located just inside the rectum, behind the base of the penis. Stimulating it — through fingers, toys, or gentle thrusting — can lead to:
Intensified orgasms
Hands-free ejaculation
Heightened full-body sensitivity
Some describe it as a wave-like orgasm. Others say it’s the closest men get to the intensity of multiple orgasms.
How to Stimulate the Prostate:
Trim nails, use gloves, and apply lube generously.
Insert a finger gently and aim toward the belly button — you'll feel a soft bump.
Massage with a “come here” motion. Communicate throughout.
Toys like the Aneros, Njoy Pure Wand, or curved plugs can provide targeted stimulation.
Tip: Avoid deep or aggressive thrusting early on. The prostate is delicate, and slow is sexy.
4. Breaking the Stigma: Anal ≠ Passive
One of the biggest cultural barriers to anal play for men is the idea that penetration equals submission — and submission equals weakness. That’s both outdated and inaccurate.
Anal pleasure isn’t about “giving up power.” It’s about opening up a new realm of sensation and closeness. It requires trust, vulnerability, and control — both physical and emotional.
Pegging and prostate play allow couples to explore non-traditional dynamics, but they also let men tune into parts of their bodies they’ve been taught to ignore. For many, that’s not emasculating — it’s freeing.
5. Anal Safety 101: What Everyone Should Know
Lube is not optional — anal sex requires more lubrication than vaginal. Reapply as needed.
Start small — fingers, slim plugs, and patience.
Never force it — communication is the real turn-on.
Use condoms or clean toys between partners to reduce STI risk.
Listen to your body — discomfort is not a badge of honor.
6. Why Now? The Cultural Shift Toward Anal Openness
Social media, sex educators, and platforms like OnlyFans have democratized access to information and erotica. More people are seeing men enjoying anal play — and more men are realizing they don’t have to live by outdated rules.
There’s also a growing awareness around pleasure inequality — the idea that men are allowed to enjoy sex, but only in very narrow, often performative ways. Anal play breaks that open.
There’s Power in Receiving
Rimming, pegging, prostate play — these aren’t just acts. They’re re-negotiations of power, permission, and pleasure. They ask men to receive. To trust. To feel, instead of perform.
That’s what makes it radical.
And also: really, really hot.
