BDSM Essentials: How to Dress, Play with Toys, and Build Your Perfect Dungeon
- Filip
- May 13
- 6 min read
Updated: May 15
The world of BDSM gear and fetish fashion can feel like a secret society—one where craftsmanship, creativity, and a little bit of edge come together to transform your private play space (or closet) into a playground of possibility. Whether you’re chasing that perfect pinch, hunting for custom-made leather harnesses or outfitting a proper dungeon, these four shops deliver quality, style and a dash of that underground flair. Here’s where to start.
1. UPKO (Gear and Toys)
In a softly lit corner of Shanghai’s underground scene, UPKO weaves metal into seduction. Their clamps—slender, precise instruments of temptation—are more than tools; they are tiny sculptures that clasp your flesh with the promise of electric charge. Imagine slender chains draping between your curves, the weight of polished zinc alloy pressing just so, each adjustment a deliberate whisper against your nerves. This is gear that doesn’t merely hold you—it coaxes you, teases you, invites you to discover how sensation can bloom in the space between pressure and release.
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Made of Italian cowhide, which is known for its supremely luxurious feel and look and its impeccable quality and durability. Polished edges are more comfortable to ware. All the golden hardware are electroplated to be shinning and exquisite, meet the high standard of luxury bags.
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2. Smitizen: Enter the World of Elevating Roleplay
If you’re ready to push boundaries into fully immersive roleplay, Smitizen is a standout player. Known for their hyper-realistic silicone suits, masks, gloves, and petsuits, they offer tools to transform not just the moment — but your entire persona.
Want to become something otherorldly for the night? Their dog, dragon, or human muscle masks are crafted from high-grade silicone that moves with your face and body, giving a deeply realistic effect. It's cosplay, kink, and performance art in one.
Their silicone petsuits take pup play and fantasy roleplay to a completely new level — snug, sensory, and built for body movement. Add in gloves and footwear to complete the look, and you’re no longer playing a character. You are the character.
What sets Smitizen apart is not only their realism, but their emphasis on privacy protection, durability, and comfort. Whether you're on stage, in private, or shooting content, their pieces offer a transformative experience that’s rooted in quality and trust.
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Dive into the petsuit range: Silicone Petsuits
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3. The Stockroom (Furniture and Fixtures)
Imagine a cathedral of restraint where polished steel and rich woods stand ready to cradle your fantasies. The Stockroom’s collection of furniture is a quiet symphony of angles, heights and hidden mechanics. A padded bench beckons your body to surrender across its supple surface. A gleaming cross stands sentinel in the corner, its arms ready to guide you into exquisite stillness. Overhead, sturdy beams await the gentle swing of ropes or the reassuring support of suspension rings. Each piece arrives with the assurance of craftsmanship and safety, so that when flesh meets form, you can dissolve fully into that heady moment where vulnerability and power collide.
For those ready to build a proper play space, The Stockroom is the one-stop source for dungeon furniture that’s equal parts stylish and sturdy. Based in Los Angeles but shipping worldwide, their “Dungeon Furniture” collection reads like a wish list for every BDSM fantasy:
Beyond its more theatrical pieces, The Stockroom also carries essentials like padded spanking benches, rolling cages and suspension rigs designed in collaboration with artists like JT (from The JT Signature Collection) and luxury fetish brands such as Stormy Leather. Every item ships discreetly and comes with load-bearing certifications—because safety matters as much as style when you’re elevating your play space to a full sensory experience.
4. ANOESE (Clothing and Accessories)
From the first touch of full-grain Italian hide, ANOESE transforms leather into second skin. Their atelier in Ukraine conjures harnesses, bodysuits and corsetry that trace your silhouette with the precision of a lover’s fingertips. Close your eyes and feel the cool buckle sliding into place at your waist, the gentle pressure along your ribs, the way soft leather molds to every contour. Here, bondage is an adornment—each strap a line of poetry, each seam an invitation to stand taller, prouder, more present in your power. Custom-made to your curves, these pieces don’t just clothe you; they christen you in confidence.
When leather lingerie reads like couture and bondage gear doubles as street-style provocative chic, you’re in ANOESE territory. Born in Ukraine and crafted from premium Italian leather, ANOESE’s pieces come in two key categories: Bodywear & Lingerie and Power Play (their bondage-inspired line).
Bodywear & Lingerie
Leather Lingerie Sets: bras and panties cut from buttery full-grain leather, custom-tailored to your measurements.
Bodysuits and Catsuits: sleek, zipper-front designs in black or unexpected hues, turning every curve into a statement.
Harnesses and Garter Belts: adjustable buckles and nickel-plated hardware lend a perfect, no-fuss fit.
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Power Play
Bondage Sets: matching belts, cuffs, collars and leashes that feel equally at home on a festival field or your bedroom floor.
Masks & Blindfolds: from minimalist eye covers to full-face designs, each piece is sewn by hand and meant to last.
Casual Accessories: chokers, thigh cuffs and even leather clutches—because why not carry your keys in something that doubles as a restraint?
Latex Body "Heat" Burgundy by ANOESE ANOESE’s secret weapon is the bespoke service. Send in your measurements, and within weeks you’ll receive pieces that hug every line of your body, complete with a 12-month guarantee. Whether you’re layering a leather bra under a blazer or staging a full-dungeon tableau, ANOESE are making sure you look—and feel—like your most empowered self... Trust us.
Dress to Dominate, Toy with Precision, and Design Your Dream Playroom
BDSM isn’t just a checklist of items—it’s a practice that starts with how you show up, how you play, and the space you hold. Use these guidelines to elevate your scenes and keep every moment infused with intention.
BDSM How to Dress
Start with the fundamentals: fit and function. Your leather harness or bodysuit should hug every curve without restricting movement—look for adjustable buckles, stretch panels, and high-quality hardware. Layer straps over a simple base (a bra and high-waist brief work perfectly) so you can reveal and conceal with purpose. Balance fetish aesthetics (think leather, latex, lace) with comfort: invest in pieces that feel as good on your skin as they look in the mirror.
BDSM How to Play with Toys
Toys are extensions of intent. Begin with a small kit—nipple clamps that dial in precise pressure, a soft flogger for sensory play, and a quality silicone vibrator or plug. Learn each toy’s mechanics before you introduce it to your partner’s body: practice adjusting clamp tension, test flogger strokes on your own arm, and select lube that won’t damage materials. Always clean and sanitize between uses to protect both body and gear.
BDSM How to Think When You Furnish Your Dungeon
Your dungeon is a canvas for possibility. Map out traffic flow first: position a St. Andrew’s Cross or bench where it’s easily accessible but not in the doorway, and leave enough room to circle around your scene. Anchor heavier pieces—restraint walls, suspension rigs—in load-bearing spots, and keep storage for cuffs, ropes, and blindfolds within arm’s reach. Lighting matters: install dimmable overheads or colored LEDs to shift mood on demand. Consider soundproofing and comfortable flooring under primary play areas.
Building Your Perfect Kit
Taken together, these four destinations are more than shops—they are portals into heightened feeling. UPKO’s precision metalwork teaches you to treasure every spark. ANOESE’s leather couture reminds you that control can be exquisite. The Stockroom’s architectural wonders prove that environment shapes experience. In the alchemy of clamps, straps and structures, you find not just objects, but invitations—to explore, to play, to own your pleasure in its most radiant form. The only question left is how deep you’re willing to dive...
Just so you know: We’re not on anyone’s payroll. This roundup is 100% independent—and 100% about celebrating four of the best in BDSM gear, fashion, and furniture.
