How to Go Down on a Woman (Like You Love It)

Let’s talk cunnilingus. Or, as it’s known in most heterosexual bedrooms: the thing you do for 90 seconds before giving up and diving into penetration like it's the only move you've got. Here’s the deal: oral sex is not a warm-up act—it’s a whole damn concert. And if you learn to headline it properly, your name will be remembered with fond sighs and very private journal entries.

This is not a technical manual—it’s a manifesto. A sexy, saliva-positive guide to doing oral like a grown-ass, pleasure-literate legend. So if you’re ready to become the kind of lover people text at 2am with “u up?”, read on.

1. First Rule: Enthusiasm is Everything

If you treat going down like a chore, she’ll feel it. And if she feels it, she won’t feel it. Confidence and curiosity are the two biggest aphrodisiacs. Look at her like she’s dessert. Dive in like you’re hungry. Because when it comes to oral sex, performance doesn’t matter—presence does.

Your goal? Not just to make her come. It’s to make her feel worshipped. To make her forget her name. To give her legs a reason to tremble.

2. It’s Not a Button, It’s an Instrument

The clitoris is not a doorknob you twist until something happens. It’s more like a violin: responsive, nuanced, and worthy of delicate attention. Use your tongue like a bow—light at first, then with pressure. Find rhythm. Adjust based on her reactions. Stay consistent once you find a good spot—she’s not a vending machine, so don’t start punching random codes once things heat up.

Also, don't forget about everything around the clit. Inner thighs, hips, belly, and the whole vulva are playgrounds. Use your mouth and your hands. Layer sensation. Create build-up. This isn’t a sprint—it’s a sinfully slow, smoldering seduction.

3. Ask (and Listen) Without Being Weird About It

Yes, communication is sexy. Ask her what she likes. Ask if she wants it softer, faster, slower, deeper. Don’t make it a performance review. Make it part of the seduction. A simple “Do you like this?” or “Tell me what you want” can unlock her entire erotic self.

Pro tip: moans, breath changes, muscle tension—those are your cheat codes. Her body will tell you when you’re getting it right. Don’t ignore them.

4. Take Your Time—Like, Really Take Your Time

Here's your new mantra: slower than you think. Then even slower. Start with kisses. Tease her thighs. Hover over her like you're about to—then don't. Build tension until she asks you to. When you finally get to her clit, it's not about getting her off as fast as possible. It’s about keeping her on the edge long enough to turn pleasure into poetry.

And no, she’s not taking too long. You’re just learning patience.

5. Your Hands Are Not on Vacation

Use them. Gently part her lips. Slide a finger in when the moment’s right (slowly, please, you’re not trying to fix a printer jam). Use your fingers in sync with your tongue, like you’re composing a very wet symphony.

And if she likes penetration during oral, hello, G-spot. Hook your fingers just right and keep a slow, firm rhythm. If you're doing it right, she’ll either grab your hair or forget her own address.

6. Be Her Mirror

Look up at her. Let her see the hunger in your eyes. Mirror her sounds with your energy. Moan into her. Let her feel the vibrations. Make the experience shared, not something you're doing to her. It’s not just physical—it’s electric.

And please, for the love of good sex, don’t stop when she’s close. Stay. With. It. Keep your rhythm. Resist the urge to speed up, change course, or get experimental at the final act. When she comes, that’s when you stay steady and let her ride the wave.

7. Aftercare Is Part of the Act

Don’t just wipe your mouth and roll over. Kiss her. Cuddle. Say something filthy or funny or warm. The best lovers know that the sex isn’t over when the orgasm ends—it’s when the connection deepens.

Worship Her Like the Goddess She Is

Being good at oral sex isn’t about ego or technique. It’s about reverence, rhythm, and genuine enjoyment. When you treat her pleasure like a privilege, not a puzzle, everything shifts.

So go forth, tongue first. And remember: your mouth has far more power than your dick ever will. Use it wisely—and often.