No one wants to think their partner is faking pleasure in bed. But the truth is, faking orgasms is more common than you might think. A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that nearly 67% of women admit to faking it at some point. That’s a lot of theatrical moaning happening behind closed doors.
If you’ve ever had that gut feeling that something’s off—like her sounds are straight out of a bad porn script or she’s rushing the grand finale—you’re not alone. But before you spiral into insecurity, let’s break down the real reasons women fake orgasms and how you can create a space where she never feels the need to.
Signs She Might Be Faking It
1. The Instant Orgasm
If she’s climaxing in record time every time—especially after minimal foreplay—it might be too good to be true. Most women need at least 13-20 minutes of stimulation to reach orgasm, according to research from The Journal of Sexual Medicine.
2. Repetitive, Over-the-Top Noises
If her moans sound exactly the same every time, like a rehearsed script, it could be a performance. Real pleasure varies, and genuine orgasms tend to have a mix of deep breaths, pauses, and uncontrolled reactions.
3. Zero Physical Aftershocks
A real orgasm involves involuntary muscle contractions, increased heart rate, and post-orgasm relaxation. If she’s faking, she might skip the afterglow and go straight to scrolling TikTok.
4. She’s Always in a Hurry to Wrap Things Up
If she’s pushing for you to finish fast or constantly saying she’s "too tired" for round two, she might not be getting what she needs.
5. She Avoids Talking About It
If she changes the subject when you bring up what she likes in bed, it might be because she’s not actually enjoying things as much as she pretends to.
Why Do Women Fake It?
Before you panic, understand that faking isn’t necessarily a reflection of your skills. Women fake orgasms for a variety of reasons, including:
Not wanting to hurt your feelings
Pressure to perform (thanks, unrealistic porn expectations)
Wanting to speed things up
Feeling insecure about their own pleasure
This isn’t about blaming her or yourself—it’s about opening up the conversation.
What to Do If You Think She’s Faking It
Here are some advice about what to do if you suspect that she's faking her orgasm. Always: Communication is key.
1. Ask Her What She Likes
Communication is everything. Instead of making it about whether she’s faking, ask what turns her on, what feels good, and what she’d love to explore more.
2. Slow Down and Pay Attention
Great sex isn’t about racing to the finish line. Focus on her body’s real reactions—breathing, muscle tension, the way she moves. The best way to tell if she’s actually enjoying it? She won’t be able to control her body’s response.
3. Prioritize Foreplay
Women need more than just penetration to climax. Clitoral stimulation is the key to most female orgasms, so mix it up with fingers, oral, and toys.
4. Ditch the Ego
Sex isn’t about performance; it’s about connection. If she’s faking, it’s not an attack on your skills—it’s an opportunity to improve intimacy together.
5. Make It a Safe Space
If she feels like she can talk to you without judgment, she’s more likely to be honest about what she needs. Create a space where honesty is sexy.
The Bottom Line: Real Pleasure Comes From Connection
Instead of fixating on whether she’s faking it, shift your focus to how you can make sex more enjoyable for both of you. When she feels heard, respected, and genuinely turned on, faking won’t even be on the table.