Meet Ron Hades: The Sadistic Domme Teaching Berlin How to Play with Power
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- 5 days ago
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From sex work skepticism to full-time domination—how this instructor turned taboo into education at BDSM studio Lux
Ron Hades didn’t always live in fetish wear. In fact, their path into BDSM came with a hefty dose of doubt.
“I had a pretty negative view of sex work growing up”
they admit in their interview on Playful Podcast. “It was a stigma I absorbed without really questioning it.”
Fast forward to now, and Ron is a Berlin-based sadistic domme, bondage practitioner, and one of the core instructors at Studio Lux, one of the city's most respected kink education spaces. They teach everything from impact play to professional domination—often blending technique with psychological depth.
“Sadism, for me, is about connection and care. It’s not cruelty for cruelty’s sake. It’s consensual choreography.”
From Shame to Sadism: The Unexpected Journey into Kink
In the episode, Ron breaks down their personal transformation—from kink-curious novice to someone who now holds space for others’ desires. They talk about early resistance to identifying as a sex worker and how exposure to Berlin’s radical, sex-positive community shifted their perspective.
“There’s a difference between violence and BDSM. I teach people to spot that difference, not just feel it.”
They share how they were first introduced to Studio Lux through an informal bondage session, and how that blossomed into a deep professional partnership. Today, they teach group courses and private workshops that focus on both skill and ethics.
Inside Studio Lux: Where Consent is Curriculum
Studio Lux isn’t your average dungeon. It’s part classroom, part sanctuary. “We’re teaching people how to tie someone up without tying up their emotions,” Ron says.
Courses range from beginner Shibari to advanced topping and sadism techniques. There’s also a clear divide between private kink players and those who aspire to become professional dommes—both of whom Lux caters to.
Ron explains how the space gives room for curiosity and failure. “You don’t have to get it right the first time,” they note. “You just have to get consent every time.”
“A flogger is just leather until you know how to wield it. We teach people how to turn tools into trust.”
Rewriting the Rules of Dominance
Ron’s presence challenges a lot of mainstream assumptions: that dominance needs to be cold, that sadism equals cruelty, that sex workers should be respected and valued as other workers. On the podcast, they lay bare the realities behind the ropes and roles—offering rare insight into what it means to take power and responsibility at the same time.
And in typical Playful Podcast fashion, the conversation doesn’t shy away from complexity. They touch on:
Sadism as a form of emotional attunement
The fetishization of professional dommes
Why domination is a craft, not a costume
The result? A grounded, refreshing perspective on kink that skips the sensationalism and lands squarely in the realm of embodied, educated sexuality.
Watch the full interview here: Playful Podcast with Ron Hades
