Mutual Masturbation: The Most Underrated Form of Foreplay

We get it — when people say “sex,” most minds go straight to penetration. But let’s be real: some of the hottest, dirtiest, most connective sex acts don’t involve thrusting at all. Case in point: mutual masturbation.

That’s right. Two (or more) people, side by side, hands on themselves (or occasionally on each other), watching, teasing, and building tension until the room feels like it’s about to combust. Couples masturbation isn’t just foreplay — it’s intimacy, exhibitionism, voyeurism, and communication rolled into one. And it deserves way more hype than it gets.

What Is Mutual Masturbation?

Simple: it’s when partners pleasure themselves in front of each other. Sometimes it’s the warm-up, sometimes it’s the main event. Sometimes it’s playful and light, sometimes it’s filthy and intense. The point? You’re getting off together — no penetration required.

The Benefits of Mutual Masturbation

1. Intimacy Without Pressure

Stress, mismatched libidos, hormones — whatever. Masturbating together takes the pressure off and keeps the connection alive.

2. A Masterclass in Communication

When you watch your partner touch themselves, you learn what actually works for them. No guessing games, no “am I doing this right?” Just straight-up sex ed, live and hot.

3. Safe and Inclusive

For queer couples, people with erectile dysfunction, chronic pain, or just anyone not feeling up for full-on sex, mutual masturbation is a way to be sexual without physical strain.

4. Instant Turn-On

There’s something wildly erotic about watching your partner unravel under their own hand. It’s vulnerable, confident, and raw all at once.

How to Try It Without Feeling Awkward

• Set the scene. Dim lights, music, eye contact — whatever makes you feel sexy.

• Start slow. Maybe kiss first, then back off and let your hands wander on yourselves.

• Keep talking. Moan, whisper, tell them how hot they look. Words make it hotter.

• Play with power. Watch who lasts longest. Take turns instructing the other. Delay your finish. Tease.

From Foreplay to Main Course

The beauty of mutual masturbation is that it doesn’t need to be “just” foreplay. It can end in penetration or oral, but it doesn’t have to. Sometimes, the act of finishing side by side — watching each other come undone — is the most intense climax of all.

Why You Should Try It Tonight

Forget what you think sex “should” look like. Couples masturbation is low-stakes, high-reward, endlessly customizable, and downright hot. It’s intimacy without penetration, confidence without pressure, and connection without guesswork.

So go on. Turn the lights low. Touch yourself. Watch your partner touch themselves. And see how quickly you stop wondering if mutual masturbation is “enough.” Spoiler: it is.