Quiz: What Relationship Style Fits You Best?

Ever wondered if you're built for the traditional couple bubble or if you thrive in more fluid, complex relationship structures? Berlin's diverse dating landscape has taught us that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to love and connection. Whether you're exploring polyamory, questioning monogamy, or curious about solo poly life, this quiz cuts through the bullshit to help you discover your authentic relationship style.

Quiz: What Relationship Style Fits You Best?

No judgment, no assumptions: just honest questions about how you actually want to live, love, and fuck in this beautifully chaotic city.

The Quiz: 15 Questions to Uncover Your True Relationship Style

Question 1: Your Dream Saturday Night A) Cozy night in with your one special person, deep conversations and Netflix B) Hosting a dinner party with your polycule, everyone cooking together C) Hitting three different dates across Berlin: drinks in Kreuzberg, dancing in Friedrichshain, late-night adventures in Schöneberg D) Solo adventures at Berghain, connecting with whoever sparks your interest E) Intimate gathering with your primary partner and one close secondary

Question 2: When Your Partner Mentions Their Crush A) Feel immediately threatened and need reassurance B) Get curious and want to hear all the details C) Feel a twinge of jealousy but ultimately excited for them D) Couldn't care less: you're busy with your own interests E) Feel compersion (joy for their joy) but want to discuss boundaries

Question 3: Time Management Reality Check A) All free time goes to one person: that's how love works B) Complex Google calendar scheduling between multiple meaningful relationships C) Flexible scheduling with freedom to follow impulses and attractions D) Fiercely guard your alone time and independence E) Balance between primary partnership and carefully chosen additional connections

Quiz: What Relationship Style Fits You Best?

Question 4: Sexual Needs and Desires A) One partner fulfilling all sexual and emotional needs feels ideal B) Different partners fulfill different aspects of your sexuality C) Sexual variety and freedom are essential to your happiness D) Sexual connections don't need emotional commitment E) Deep sexual connection with one person, plus occasional others

Question 5: Jealousy Response A) Jealousy feels natural and protective of the relationship B) Jealousy happens but you work through it with communication C) Mild jealousy that you can process and move past quickly D) Rarely feel jealous: everyone should be free E) Selective jealousy about certain situations or people

Question 6: Communication Style A) Private conversations between two people solve everything B) Regular relationship check-ins with multiple partners C) Casual, as-needed communication about boundaries and feelings D) Minimal relationship talk: keep things light and fun E) Structured communication protocols for different relationship levels

Question 7: Berlin Club Scene Preference A) Couple's nights at intimate venues like Watergate B) Polyamory meetups and community events in alternative spaces C) Floating between different scenes: queer parties, techno clubs, whatever feels right D) Solo missions to places like KitKatClub or Lab.oratory E) Mix of couple time and individual exploration in Berlin's nightlife

Question 8: Future Vision A) Building a life together: shared home, maybe kids, growing old together B) Creating chosen family with multiple meaningful long-term relationships C) Maintaining freedom while potentially deepening certain connections D) Prioritizing personal growth and career with relationships as beautiful additions E) Solid foundation with one person plus space for other meaningful connections

Question 9: Conflict Resolution A) Work through issues privately as a couple until resolved B) Sometimes need group discussions or mediation with metamours C) Address conflicts quickly and move on: don't overthink D) Avoid drama by keeping relationships casual E) Different conflict styles for different relationship levels

Question 10: Living Situation Dreams A) Shared space that reflects your coupled life together B) Communal living or close proximity to your polycule C) Your own space with room for whoever you're seeing D) Solo living with no permanent cohabitation plans E) Primary partner cohabitation with private space for other relationships

Quiz: What Relationship Style Fits You Best?

Question 11: Emotional Investment A) Pour everything into one deep, all-encompassing relationship B) Distribute deep emotional investment across multiple people C) Keep things lighter but genuine across various connections D) Maintain emotional independence while enjoying connections E) One primary emotional investment plus selective secondary investments

Question 12: Social Integration A) Friends become "our" friends: merged social circles B) Complex web of social connections through multiple partners C) Maintain separate friend groups that occasionally overlap D) Fiercely independent social life E) Primary partner integrates into main social circle, others stay separate

Question 13: STI Testing and Sexual Health A) Couple's testing routine: simple and straightforward B) Regular testing with transparent results sharing across polycule C) Responsible individual testing with casual sharing D) Personal health management without extensive discussion E) Structured testing protocols for different relationship levels

Question 14: Long-Term Relationship Goals A) Traditional escalator: exclusivity, cohabitation, marriage, kids B) Multiple long-term partnerships without hierarchy C) Organic relationship development without preset expectations D) Maintaining independence while enjoying intimate connections E) Primary partnership with potential for additional long-term connections

Question 15: Berlin Lifestyle Integration A) Couple's exploration of Berlin's sex-positive culture together B) Active in Berlin's poly community and alternative relationship events C) Spontaneous participation in Berlin's diverse dating and hookup culture D) Solo navigation of Berlin's infamous sexual freedom E) Selective engagement with Berlin's relationship diversity

Your Results: Discover Your Relationship Style

Mostly A's: The Devoted Monogamist

You thrive in deep, exclusive partnerships where all emotional, sexual, and romantic energy flows between two people. Traditional relationship structures feel natural and fulfilling: not because society told you so, but because exclusive intimacy genuinely makes you happiest.

Your Strengths: Deep emotional security, simplified relationship management, intense intimate connection, clear boundaries that everyone understands.

Berlin Tips: Explore couple's events, intimate venues, and the city's romantic side while respecting your monogamous nature. Places like Watergate for couple's nights or romantic dinners in Prenzlauer Berg suit your style.

Mostly B's: The Relationship Anarchist (Polyamorous)

You're built for multiple meaningful relationships without hierarchy. Love isn't limited, and you thrive managing complex emotional and sexual connections with different people who fulfill different aspects of your full self.

Your Strengths: Exceptional communication skills, emotional intelligence, ability to love multiple people deeply, creating chosen family networks.

Berlin Tips: Connect with Berlin's active poly community through events, workshops, and alternative relationship meetups. Explore venues that welcome complex relationship structures.

Mostly C's: The Free Spirit (Open Relationship)

You want committed partnership with sexual and romantic freedom. Variety enhances rather than threatens your primary connection, and you need flexibility to explore attractions as they arise.

Your Strengths: Honesty about human nature, ability to separate love from possessiveness, adventure and spontaneity in relationships.

Berlin Tips: Berlin's club scene is perfect for you: explore with your partner or independently. Communicate boundaries clearly and enjoy the city's sex-positive atmosphere.

Quiz: What Relationship Style Fits You Best?

Mostly D's: The Solo Poly

Independence is your superpower. You maintain full autonomy while enjoying meaningful connections that don't compromise your personal goals, space, or freedom. Relationships enhance your life without becoming your life.

Your Strengths: Self-sufficiency, clear boundaries, emotional independence, ability to give freely without expectation.

Berlin Tips: Perfect city for solo poly lifestyle: anonymous hookups, diverse communities, respect for individual autonomy. Explore everything from techno clubs to intellectual meetups.

Mostly E's: The Hierarchical Poly

You prefer structured non-monogamy with clear relationship levels: primary partnership providing stability while secondary relationships offer additional connection and growth.

Your Strengths: Balance between security and variety, structured approach to complex relationships, ability to prioritize without dismissing.

Berlin Tips: Find partners who understand hierarchy, communicate expectations clearly, and explore the city's relationship diversity while maintaining your core partnership structure.

Beyond the Labels

Remember, relationship styles can evolve, and Berlin's incredible diversity means you'll find community regardless of your approach. The key is honest self-reflection about what actually makes you happy: not what you think should make you happy.

Whether you're monogamous in a poly-friendly city or discovering polyamory later in life, authenticity beats conformity every time. Berlin celebrates relationship diversity, so embrace whatever structure lets you love and be loved most authentically.

Your relationship style isn't your destiny: it's your current truth. And that's exactly where you should start building the love life you actually want.