The Dominant Handjob Guide: Turning a “Basic” Move Into Domination

Handjobs get a bad rap. Too vanilla. Too teenage. Too “lazy porn filler.” But here’s the truth: in the right hands (pun fully intended), a handjob can be kinky as hell—especially when you add a dose of dominance.

Think less high school fumble, more power play. A dominant handjob isn’t about just getting someone off—it’s about showing them who’s in charge, how they get there, and if they get there at all.

The Dominant Handjob Guide: Turning a “Basic” Move Into Domination

1. The “Look But Don’t Touch” Grip

Sit your partner down, tie their hands behind their back (scarf, tie, or whatever’s nearby), and start stroking. The rule: they don’t get to touch you. Not your skin, not your clothes, not even your ankle. Watching them squirm while you stay fully dressed is half the power trip.

2. The Stop-Start Torture

Classic tease-and-denial: stroke, stop, wait. Stroke, stop, wait longer. Bonus if you make them beg. This turns a handjob into a psychological game—you’re writing the rules, they’re just praying you’ll keep playing.

3. The Spit Lube Power Move

Lube is nice. Lube is polite. But spit? That’s dominance. Look them in the eye, spit in your hand, and stroke. Dirty, degrading, hot as hell.

4. The Caged Pet Stroke

No cage? No problem. Imagine one. Order them to kneel at your feet while you lazily stroke them with one hand and scroll your phone with the other. Or better: Decide if they’ve earned a single stroke. Maybe they're just allowed one finger.

5. The Silent Treatment Handjob

Don’t say a word. Just stare. Stroke slowly, unpredictably. Make your partner desperate to hear anything from you—a moan, a laugh, even a sigh. Silence, paired with total control, hits like a psychological whip.

6. The Edge-and-Deny Marathon

Set a timer. Give them 55 minutes of edging, one minute of orgasm—if they’re lucky. Or keep them on the edge for an entire time with no release. The cruelty is the point.

7. The Costume Surprise

Power dynamics get even hotter with a visual twist. Throw on latex gloves, leather, or a buttoned-up shirt and glasses (the “stern teacher” vibe). The more contrast between you looking “put together” and their sweaty desperation, the better.

8. The Public Tease (Kinda)

Handjobs don’t have to happen in bed. Under the table at dinner. In the back of a cab. At a bar bathroom with your hand shoved down their pants. Risk, secrecy, humiliation—it’s foreplay fuel.

9. The Aftercare Twist

Domination doesn’t end at orgasm. After a rough, humiliating handjob, clean them up yourself. Wipe them down, kiss their forehead, make them small spoon. Nothing says, “I own you” like deciding how their night ends.

Handjob Foreplay

The humble handjob isn’t just foreplay—it’s a canvas for power dynamics. When you add humiliation, denial, control, and creativity, you’re not just giving a handjob—you’re delivering a full BDSM session, no toys required.