What to Pack for Your First Sex Party

You finally got the ticket. Maybe it’s KiKat Club in Berlin, Milk & Honey in Prague, or Klub Verboten in London. Maybe you’re about to descend into a latex-slicked basement at Insomnia, or you're heading to a woodsy villa outside Paris where phones are banned and orgasms are promised. Either way: you need to pack like you’ve done this before—even if your safe word is still TBD.

What to Pack for Your First Sex Party

Here’s the definitive sex party packing list. No fluff. No judgment. Just the gear that'll get you in, keep you safe, and make sure you don’t end up raw, regretful, or locked out of the cloakroom at 3am.

The Actually Essential Stuff (Don’t Show Up Without These)

Government ID

Every venue—from Hedone in Paris to The Paradise Club in Amsterdam or any place in London—requires it. Some ask for pre-registration, others scan your details at the door. Without it, you're just a dressed-up voyeur in the queue.

Condoms, Dams, and Gloves

Don’t expect your orgy host to provide these. Bring your own stash. Latex, non-latex, sizes you like. Gloves for handplay or fisting. It’s not just hot—it’s respectful.

Lube (Small Bottle, Big Respect)

Water-based is toy-safe. Silicone lasts longer. Bring both if you’re planning to sample the menu.

Wipes

Bring intimate wipes and surface wipes. Clean before, clean after. Bonus: helps with lube drips and glitter fallout.

Breath Mints

Sex is better when no one's distracted by your garlic ramen from earlier.

Small Towel or Aftercare Cloth

For sweat, cum, tears, or all of the above.

What to Pack for Your First Sex Party

What to Wear (and What Will Get You Kicked Out)

Fetish-Forward Outfit

Check the club's dress code. KitKat wants costume. Verboten prefers elegant kink. No, your black Zara jeans don’t count. Think latex, leather, mesh, lingerie, or custom harnesses. Go dramatic or go home.

Comedown Clothes

You’ll thank yourself when it’s 6am, your mascara’s in your clavicle, and you have to ride the U-Bahn home. Pack a hoodie and something soft.

Shoes That Can Survive You

Platforms, boots, barefoot (if allowed). Leave stilettos and squeaky sneakers at home.

Lock and Bag for Your Stuff

Not all clubs provide locker locks. Bring your own or stash things strategically. If you lose your phone, it won’t be because of us.

Consent Tools + Social Ammo

Mental Yes/No/Maybe ListHave it ready. Know your hard stops. You’re not a pillow—don’t just absorb other people’s kinks.

Pre-scene Safeword Plan“Red” is standard, but communicate. Even casual play deserves mutual clarity.

CashFor entry, drinks, tips, cabs, bribing the cloakroom when your stuff “goes missing.” Cards fail. Cash flirts.

Aftercare SnackEnergy bar, electrolyte tab, chocolate. Emotional drop is real—even if you didn’t think you'd care.

Tech & Etiquette

Phone (In wardrobe, or flightmood + stickers over cameras)

Some clubs confiscate phones. Some let you keep them—but turn off flash, don’t film, don’t post. If you violate that, you're the major problem.

External Battery

There’s nothing worse than getting ghosted by your GPS when you’re half-naked and lost in Kreuzberg.

Optional but Elite-Level Add-ons

• Small mirror for makeup re-ups

• Toy cleaner spray

• Extra underwear or socks

• Zip bag for wet/used items

• Favourite lube (for when the mood turns extra)

Real Talk: Don't Be This Person

• Don’t get wasted beforehand. Most clubs will kick you out.

• Don’t assume touch is welcome—ask every time.

• Don’t overshare about your chakras during someone else’s flogging scene.

• And don’t fake confidence. Nervous is okay. Quiet is okay. Watching is okay.

Sex parties aren’t just about sex. They’re about trust, timing, chemistry, community. If you’re new, good. That means you’re learning. But come prepared—or don’t come at all.