Guide: Tasks On How to Punish a Sub (Long-Distance Edition)
- Filip
- Jul 18
- 2 min read
Just because you’re managing your submissive from a thousand kilometers away doesn’t mean they get to act like a brat without consequences. In fact, when a D/s contract is broken remotely—when there’s no paddle within reach, no eye-roll to meet in person—it calls for a very different kind of dominance. Less leather and chains, more strategy and psychological chess.
If you’re a Domme looking to reassert power without physical proximity, these punishments are designed to correct behavior, reinforce the dynamic, and yes—maintain that delicious erotic tension across bandwidths.
1. Orgasm Denial That Actually Hurts
(The classic punishment—but make it digital.)
No sexts. No selfies. No voice notes. No orgasm. For a week. Or two. Or more.
This isn’t just about not letting them come—it’s about isolating their access to you, and by extension, their identity as a submissive. If you’ve built a psychological dependency (and let’s be honest, you have), pulling that thread stings like hell.
2. Strip Their Privileges, Not Their Clothes
Revoke the rituals they take for granted. No more calling you “Mistress.” No morning check-ins. No protocol. Return them to square one.
“You wanted freedom? Great. Now earn your way back.”
It’s not cruel. It’s clarifying. This is how you make a contract feel like more than cosplay.
3. The Humiliation of Homework
Make them write their way back in.
A formal apology.
A 1,000-word reflection on their behavior.
A “what I learned” essay with action steps.
Bonus: have them read it out loud to you on a call—shirtless, kneeling, camera on. Suddenly the humiliation feels very real.
4. Digital Embodied Punishment
Yes, even psychological punishment can be physical—when done right.
Make them wear an embarrassing item under their clothes during work hours.
Sleep on the floor, no pillow, no blanket.
Send a photo of themselves post-shower with a humiliating marker (lipstick on chest? A post-it label saying “disobedient”? Use your imagination.)
This taps into the body-mind connection where kink actually lives.
5. Forced Silence
No speaking.
No DMing.
No initiating communication unless requested.
This works like erotic exile—your attention becomes the reward. And when you finally allow them to speak again? Oh, they’ll worship every syllable.
6. Time-Restricted Control Days
Dominate their day.
Set their wake-up and bedtime.
Assign a chore list.
Ban all dopamine (no snacks, screens, or anything fun).
This is service kink via spreadsheet. Domestic submission in its purest, coldest form.
7. Ritual Disownment
Temporarily “break the dynamic.” Strip them of your name, your contract, their role. No “Sir,” no “Mistress,” no collar.
Make them feel the absence of being yours. No punishment hits harder than removal from the thing they crave most—belonging.
Bonus: The Aftercare Reintegration
A punishment without a pathway back is just cruelty. When the terms have been met, give them a way home: a ritual, a recommitment, a new rule to mark the next chapter.
Because long-distance D/s isn't about being punitive—it's about precision, power, and earned connection.