How to Give a Blowjob to Her Strap-On: The Femdom Submissive's Guide
- Amanda Sandström Beijer
- 3 days ago
- 6 min read
When your dominant partner straps on that silicone extension of her power, something electric happens. The sight of her commanding presence, the weight of submission settling on your shoulders, the anticipation of worship: it's pure femdom magic. But giving a stellar strap-on blowjob isn't just about going through the motions. It's an art form that combines technique, psychology, and raw desire into one mind-blowing experience.
Whether you're new to the submissive role or looking to elevate your oral worship game, this guide will transform you into the devoted cocksucker she deserves. Because when you're on your knees, looking up at her goddess-like figure, every lick and suck becomes an act of devotion.
Why Strap-On Worship Hits Different
Strap-on blowjobs occupy a unique space in femdom dynamics. For the dominant partner, it's about power projection: watching their submissive eagerly service something that represents their authority. The psychological thrill comes from role reversal, control, and the visual feast of submission in action.
For submissives, it's pure worship. You're not just pleasuring a toy; you're honoring her dominance through intimate service. The act itself becomes a meditation on submission, each movement a prayer to her power.
The beauty lies in the psychological layers. She feels your devotion through the harness pressure against her body. You experience the intoxicating blend of service and surrender. It's physical intimacy wrapped in power exchange: the perfect femdom cocktail.
Setting the Sacred Scene
Before your lips touch silicone, create the right atmosphere. Femdom thrives on ritual and intention, so make this moment count.
Preparation Rituals Start with a cleansing shower. Clean yourself thoroughly: inside and out if anal play might follow. Choose an outfit that emphasizes your submissive role: something that makes you feel small, exposed, or deliberately objectified according to your dynamic.
Mental Preparation Spend time in quiet reflection before approaching her. Remember your place. Recall why you crave her dominance. Let that hunger build until you're genuinely desperate to serve. Authentic desire trumps performance every single time.
Communication and Consent Discuss boundaries beforehand. How deep can you take it? Does she want to thrust? Any trigger words to avoid? Safe words remain crucial even during worship sessions. Clear communication strengthens the power exchange rather than weakening it.
The Art of Approach
How you begin sets the tone for everything that follows. Submission starts before you touch the strap-on.
Eye Contact and Permission Never assume access. Ask permission to worship her cock: verbally or through agreed-upon gestures. Maintain eye contact during this request. Let her see your genuine hunger and respect simultaneously.
Body Language of Devotion Approach on your knees if possible. Keep your posture respectful but eager. Your body should communicate "I'm here to serve" rather than "let's get this over with." She should feel worshipped from the moment you move toward her.
The Tease Don't rush straight to deep-throating. Start by kissing around the harness, showing appreciation for her body and preparation. Kiss her thighs, stomach, wherever she enjoys attention. Build anticipation until both of you are aching for the main event.
Fundamental Techniques That Drive Her Wild
Starting Slow and Sensual Begin with your tongue. Lick the shaft from base to tip like you're savoring expensive chocolate. Take your time exploring every ridge and curve. This isn't just foreplay: it's worship in its purest form.
Use plenty of saliva. It provides necessary lubrication while creating those delicious wet sounds that enhance the experience. Don't be shy about getting messy; enthusiastic sloppiness often reads as genuine desire.
Depth Control and Comfort Wrap your hand around the base to control depth while providing her with something firm to grind against. This technique protects your throat while giving her additional sensation through the harness.
Never use your teeth for depth control. The strap-on won't feel it, but your dental work will suffer. Instead, use your hand as a buffer and communicate through gentle pressure if you need adjustment.
Rhythm and Response Start slowly and build intensity based on her reactions. Watch her body language, listen to her breathing, respond to her verbal cues. The best submissives become students of their dominant's responses.
If she wants to take control and thrust, relax your throat and let her set the pace. This surrender of control can be incredibly powerful for both partners. Trust her to respect your limits while pushing your boundaries.
Advanced Worship Techniques
Involving Her Whole Body Don't focus solely on the strap-on. Reach for her thighs, grab her hips, caress her stomach. If the harness allows access and she enjoys it, incorporate finger play that matches your oral rhythm.
Bring one of her fingers into your mouth alongside the strap-on so she can feel exactly what you're doing. This direct sensory connection intensifies the experience dramatically.
Dirty Talk and Vocalization Express your enthusiasm verbally. Tell her how much you love serving her cock. Describe what you're feeling. Ask permission for specific acts: "May I take you deeper, Mistress?"
Your voice should convey genuine desire rather than performance. She wants to hear your authentic submission, not porn dialogue.
Position Variations Experiment with different positions. Kneeling beside the bed while she sits gives her visual dominance. Lying on your back with her straddling your face offers complete surrender. Standing positions can work for semi-public scenes.
Each position changes the power dynamic subtly. Discuss preferences and rotate through options to keep things fresh.
Public and Semi-Exhibitionist Play
For couples interested in taking worship beyond the bedroom, semi-public strap-on play opens exciting possibilities.
Hotel Room Windows Strategically positioned hotel rooms can provide safe exhibitionist thrills. The risk of being seen (while maintaining legal compliance) adds adrenaline to the worship experience.
Private Outdoor Spaces Secluded balconies, private hot tubs, or enclosed patios can provide outdoor excitement without legal risks. The thrill of potential discovery intensifies submission naturally.
Adult Venues Some kink clubs and sex-positive venues accommodate strap-on worship scenes. These controlled environments let you explore public dynamics safely. Research venues thoroughly and understand their specific rules before planning scenes.
Emotional Aftercare and Connection
Intense worship sessions require emotional processing afterward. Plan for proper aftercare regardless of scene intensity.
Immediate Aftercare Stay physically close after the scene ends. Cuddle, hydrate, and check in verbally about the experience. Both partners may need reassurance and connection after intense power exchange.
Processing the Experience Discuss what worked well and what could improve. These conversations strengthen your dynamic while ensuring future sessions meet both partners' needs. Honest feedback benefits everyone involved.
For submissives, intense worship can trigger sub drop hours or days later. Plan accordingly with extra care and attention during the recovery period.
Safety and Health Considerations
Strap-On Hygiene Clean the strap-on thoroughly before and after use with toy-safe cleaners. If switching between partners or activities, use fresh condoms or clean completely between transitions.
Physical Safety Listen to your body. Jaw fatigue is normal during extended sessions: take breaks when needed. Throat soreness should resolve quickly; persistent pain warrants medical attention.
Communicate discomfort immediately rather than pushing through dangerous situations. Good dominants prioritize their submissive's wellbeing above scene continuity.
Emotional Safety Establish clear safe words and use them without shame. Intense submission can trigger unexpected emotional responses. Create space for processing these feelings without judgment.
Regular relationship check-ins outside of scenes help maintain healthy power exchange dynamics. Both partners need opportunities to discuss the relationship as equals.
Making It Your Own
The most powerful strap-on worship comes from authentic desire rather than technical perfection. Focus on genuine submission and connection over pornographic performance.
Experiment with different approaches until you find what works for your unique dynamic.
Some couples prefer intense degradation; others favor loving worship. Both approaches can be equally valid and satisfying.
Remember that great femdom relationships, like all relationships, require ongoing communication, respect, and genuine care for each other's wellbeing. The power exchange enhances intimacy rather than replacing it.
Your journey into strap-on worship represents just one facet of femdom exploration. Whether you're interested in female led relationships or seeking guidance from a professional dominatrix, remember that authentic submission comes from within.
Now get on your knees and show her exactly how devoted you can be.