Quiz: Are You Dominant, Submissive, or a Switch in Bed?

The power exchange personality test you didn’t know you needed.

So… Who’s Actually in Charge Here?

Every relationship, every hook-up, every “we should talk about our kinks” moment has a quiet question buried inside it:

Who’s leading, and who’s following?

Power exchange isn’t always about whips and chains (though, sure, that helps). Sometimes it’s a glance, a tone, a decision made mid-thrust.

Quiz: Are You Dominant, Submissive, or a Switch in Bed?

It’s the part of sex that’s more about psychology than position — how you relate to power, surrender, and trust.

This quiz won’t label you.

It’ll just show you how you play.

The Quiz

Keep score: mostly A’s, B’s, or C’s reveal your result.

1. During sex, what excites you most?

A. Taking control — deciding the pace and direction.

B. Being told what to do — surrendering control turns me on.

C. Trading power — I like switching it up depending on the mood.

2. What’s your immediate response to someone being bossy with you in bed?

A. I’m into it — but I’ll be the one giving orders next.

B. Yes, please. I melt for that energy.

C. Depends on the vibe — sometimes I want to resist, sometimes I want to obey.

3. How do you like your partners to feel after sex?

A. Wrecked and worshipful.

B. Safe, used, and adored.

C. Equal — like we both got to play out our fantasies.

4. What’s your role in decision-making outside the bedroom?

A. Usually in charge — I like leading.

B. I’m adaptable; I go with the flow.

C. Depends who I’m with — I can lead or follow easily.

5. You’re in a new hookup. They ask, “What do you want me to do to you?” Your answer is…A. “You’ll find out soon enough.”

B. “Whatever you want.”

C. “Let’s both find out together.”

6. What does surrender mean to you?

A. Trust — and a gift that must be earned.

B. Relief — finally not having to be in control.

C. A dance — I can give it or take it away.

7. In a fantasy, you picture yourself…

A. Standing over someone, fully dressed, watching.

B. Kneeling, waiting for permission.

C. Switching halfway through.

8. Which phrase secretly hits you hardest?

A. “Be still.”

B. “Good boy/girl.”

C. “Now it’s my turn.”

9. You’re in bed with someone new. They’re clearly a Dom. You feel…

A. Excited — I want to challenge them.

B. Nervous, turned on, ready to obey.

C. Curious — maybe they’ll bring out a new side of me.

10. How do you feel after being either in control or completely controlled?

A. Empowered, grounded, confident.

B. Soft, blissed out, safe.

C. Balanced, like I touched both sides of myself.

Now, Count Your Letters

Mostly A’s → The Dominant (aka The Architect of Chaos)

Mostly B’s → The Submissive (aka The Power Beneath the Power)

Mostly C’s → The Switch (aka The Duality Player)

Your Result Explained

The Dominant (Mostly A’s)

You’re the architect, the choreographer, the one who builds the stage and sets the tempo.

Control isn’t about ego for you — it’s about attention. You read body language like poetry, orchestrating every gasp and tremor.Your energy is commanding, but your power comes from knowing what the other person needs, not just taking it.

Power tip: Don’t mistake control for performance. Dominance thrives in authenticity — when you lead with presence, not pressure.

The Submissive (Mostly B’s)

You’re the heartbeat underneath it all. You don’t give up control because you’re weak — you do it because you trust.

For you, submission is both erotic and emotional. You crave to be seen, guided, undone. You want someone to read you so well you stop needing words.

Power tip: Submission isn’t compliance — it’s artful surrender. You hold more power than you think.

The Switch (Mostly C’s)

You’re fluent in duality — soft and sharp, commanding and yielding. You understand both sides of the leash, and that’s your superpower.

You like variety, tension, and energy exchange. Some days you crave control; others, you crave surrender. You’re an explorer, not a label.

Power tip: Communicate openly. Switch energy thrives in chemistry — not chaos.

What It All Means

Whether you’re a dominant, submissive, or switch, the real secret is that these are roles, not boxes. You might lean one way this year and the other next. You might be dominant in life and submissive in bed — or vice versa.

Your sexual personality isn’t static; it’s a spectrum that shifts with trust, chemistry, and time.What matters is the awareness — and the willingness to play honestly within your dynamic.

Power is never lost or gained. It’s just passed back and forth between people brave enough to touch it.