Why Straight Men Fantasize About Forced Bi Scenes

It’s one of porn’s quietest open secrets: plenty of self-identified straight men find themselves fantasizing about being “forced” into bisexual sex. Not in their everyday lives, not necessarily in practice—but in the privacy of their search bar, this kink keeps popping up.

On paper, it sounds contradictory. Why would a man who doesn’t identify as bi imagine himself in a scene with another man? The answer lies less in labels and more in psychology.

Why Straight Men Fantasize About Forced Bi Scenes

1. It’s About Power, Not Orientation

A lot of forced-bi porn frames the act as something happening to the man—he’s pushed, dared, or dominated into it. For men who are socialized to always be in control, the fantasy of surrender can be intoxicating. It’s less about “Do I want men?” and more about “What happens if I let go of control?”

2. Taboo = Turn-On

The erotic brain thrives on breaking rules. Straight men are told from an early age that same-sex desire is off-limits, shameful, or “not for them.” Which makes it the perfect playground for fantasy. You don’t have to want to act on it in real life for it to light up the imagination.

3. The Porn Algorithm Doesn’t Lie

Bisexual threesome and forced-bi scenarios are some of the most consistently searched kinks among men on major porn sites. The anonymity of the internet allows men to explore without fear of judgment. In that sense, porn becomes a kind of shadow diary—recording the fantasies they might never admit aloud.

4. Curiosity vs. Identity

Some men who fantasize about forced bi aren’t “secretly gay.” Many aren’t even bi. Fantasy is an experimental lab, a what-if generator. You can want to imagine something intensely without it being your real-world orientation. Straight women, after all, fantasize about non-consensual scenarios without wanting to be assaulted. Men just rarely get that nuance granted back to them.

5. The Ego Escape Hatch

Labeling it “forced” gives men psychological cover. It lets them explore same-sex desire without admitting it’s theirs: “I didn’t choose this, it happened to me.” That layer of plausible deniability makes the arousal safer, especially for men steeped in cultural homophobia.

6. When Fantasy Meets Reality

For some men, these fantasies eventually become stepping stones toward real-world bi exploration—especially within open or kink-positive relationships. For others, it stays firmly in the realm of roleplay. Both are valid, as long as consent and honesty anchor the exploration.

The Bigger Picture

Straight men’s “forced bi” fantasies aren’t proof that everyone’s secretly gay. They’re proof that desire doesn’t follow rigid categories. Sex lives in the messy, liminal spaces where taboo, power, and curiosity overlap.

As one man confessed in a kink forum: “It’s not that I want to hook up with guys. It’s that in the fantasy, I don’t have a choice. That’s what turns me on. That’s what frees me.”

Sometimes it’s not about crossing lines. It’s about finding out where the lines blur.