Dirty Talk Examples: The Script for a Long Night
- Amanda Sandström Beijer
- 13 minutes ago
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Words are foreplay. They're the difference between fumbling in the dark and orchestrating something that leaves marks on the memory. Dirty talk isn't about reciting porn dialogue, it's about psychological precision wrapped in heat. It's erotic communication that bypasses the body and goes straight for the brain.
This is your arsenal. One column. No gender boxes. No safety nets. These examples work for anyone willing to use their mouth for more than heavy breathing.

The Psychological Edge
Start here if you want to crawl under someone's skin before you ever touch them. These lines are sharp, calculated, and designed to make someone feel very seen and very vulnerable.
"I've been thinking about what I'm going to do to you all day, and you have no idea what's coming."
"You're going to beg me before this is over. Not because I want you to, because you'll need to."
"Tell me what you want. Use your words. I'm not a mind reader, and I don't reward silence."
"You look so good when you're desperate for me."
"I want to hear you say my name like it's the only word you remember."
"You're mine tonight. Every sound, every touch, every second, mine."
"I love watching you try to keep it together when I know exactly how to break you."
"Does it make you nervous when I look at you like this? Good."
"You're going to do exactly what I tell you, and you're going to thank me for it."

The Raw & Filthy
This is where verbal foreplay stops being polite. No metaphors, no subtlety, just raw intention delivered with confidence.
"I want to fuck you until you forget your own name."
"Get on your knees. Now."
"You feel so fucking good, I don't think I'm ever letting you leave."
"I want to taste every inch of you."
"You're so wet for me already. We've barely started."
"I'm going to make you come so hard you'll feel it tomorrow."
"You're going to take everything I give you, and you're going to love it."
"Tell me how much you want it. Louder."
"I want to hear you scream my name."
"You're so fucking perfect like this, desperate and mine."
"Don't stop. I want to watch you fall apart."
"I'm not done with you yet."
Why Does Dirty Talk Work So Well?
Because sex isn't just physical, it's psychological theater. Research on sexual arousal and communication shows that verbal stimulation activates the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for anticipation and reward processing. Translation: dirty talk makes your brain light up before your body even catches up.
Kinky dirty talk, specifically, taps into power dynamics, vulnerability, and trust. It's not just about what you say, it's about who gets to say it and when. The words become a contract, a script, a negotiation of desire in real time.

The Commanding Presence
For those who lead. These lines establish control, set the tone, and make it clear who's running the show.
"Don't move. I didn't say you could."
"Look at me when I'm talking to you."
"You're going to stay exactly like this until I say otherwise."
"I decide when you come. Not you."
"Hands behind your back. I want to see how patient you can be."
"Good. Now do it again, slower this time."
"You don't get to hide from me. I want to see everything."
"I like you like this, quiet and obedient."
"You're doing so well for me. Keep going."
"I'm going to push you tonight. Tell me if it's too much, but I don't think it will be."
The Submissive Surrender
For those who follow. Vulnerability delivered with intention, need wrapped in permission.
"Please. I need you."
"I'll do anything you want. Just tell me."
"Use me. I'm yours. All of me."
"I love when you take control like this."
"Don't stop. Please don't stop."
"I can't think straight when you touch me like that."
"Tell me what you want me to do. I'll do it."
"I need you inside me."
"I'm so close. Could you please let me cum?"
"I love being yours. I love how you make me feel."
The Mid-Scene Fuel
For when things are already underway and you need to keep the energy climbing. These lines maintain momentum, check in, and escalate tension.
"You like that, don't you?"
"I want to hear you say it."
"Tell me how it feels."
"Louder. I want everyone to hear you."
"You're taking me so well."
"I love the sounds you make."
"Keep your eyes on me."
"You're so fucking beautiful like this."
"I'm not stopping until you come."
"Just like that. Good boy/girl."

What If Dirty Talk Feels Awkward at First?
It will. That's normal. Your mouth isn't used to narrating desire, and your brain will panic the first few times you try. The trick isn't to be smooth: it's to commit. Hesitation kills the vibe faster than any clumsy phrasing.
Start small. Test a single phrase during foreplay and see how it lands. Build from there. Sex positive communication isn't about performing: it's about authenticity wrapped in heat. If you sound like yourself, it works. If you sound like you're reading from a script you don't believe in, it won't.
And if you mess up? Laugh. Reset. Keep going. The goal isn't perfection: it's connection.
The Tease & Denial
For the sadists and patience-testers. These lines delay gratification, build tension, and make the eventual release devastating.
"Not yet. You don't get to come yet."
"I know you're close. Hold it."
"Beg me for it."
"You're going to wait until I'm ready."
"I love watching you squirm."
"Almost. But not quite."
"Tell me how badly you need it."
"You can take a little more, can't you?"
"I decide when you get what you want."
"Patience. It'll be worth it."

The Aftercare Script
Because what you say after matters just as much. These lines ground, reassure, and close the scene with care.
"You did so well. I'm so proud of you."
"Come here. Let me hold you."
"Are you okay? Talk to me."
"You were incredible."
"I've got you. You're safe."
"That was intense. How are you feeling?"
"You're amazing. I love being with you like this."
"Take your time. We're not going anywhere."
"You're perfect. Exactly as you are."
"I'm here. Just breathe."
For more on navigating power dynamics with care, you can check out 6 Essential BDSM Safety Tips for Every Practitioner.
Dirty talk isn't a performance. It's a language you learn by speaking it: messily at first, then with precision, then with instinct. The examples here are starting points, not gospel. Adapt them. Make them yours. Say them like you mean them, because if you don't, neither will your partner.
The best dirty talk is the kind that sounds like you, feels like honesty, and lands like permission. Everything else is just noise.





