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The dominatrix – making men her property

By: Amanda Sandström Beijer


After visiting a BDSM basement in the last issue of Playful, we got a taste of the sub- and dom culture. Therefore, we decided to meet Sarah Sabukoschek and her two male BDSM slaves to learn more about their relationships.


So, as we've understood, you're the master of a couple of men? We're curious. Tell us more!

I am their goddess, yes. I don’t depend on my work as a Dominatrix, so I set up my rules of how this is going to work for me. I do it for fun, experience and for personal gains of all. Obviously. I know this sounds a bit utopian for someone who has no contact with the scene, but in reality, it’s pretty simple: Through the tests I filter the good slaves from the bad ones and then I keep them ideally as my property.


How did you get in contact with your slaves?

Since I started having slaves, submissive people kind of sense that and come up to me pretty randomly. Through Facebook or at a party for example. Most of them contact me through specific websites. Submissives who want to play along my rules apply as servants. They must tell me what experiences they have and what they bring to the table, skillwise and financially. Skills could be giving great massages, knowing about beauty care, pedicure, or cleaning. If we have the same understanding of how a queen-slave relationship should look like, I test them. After the testing phase I either dump them or take them as my personal 24/7 slaves. 24/7 is a term that describes a dom-sub relationship that doesn’t just exist in the bedroom. It means living the lifestyle 24 hours, 7 days a week.


In what way is it enjoyable for you as a master?

In many ways! Doesn’t every little kid dream about being a princess? The way I live it, I get to be treated exactly how I want. Ideally, I can get whatever I want, when I want it and where I want it from my slave. I prefer to have just one or two properly functioning subs. This gives both sides the opportunity to deepen the relationship and the trust, which is very important. The way I play this game, it’s not about their pleasures at all. It’s about fulfilling my orders and a good slave is so aware that they learn to fulfil my wishes before I even have to say them. I am very strict actually, it’s not for everybody!


It is enjoyable to get to speak very openly about sexual fantasies. My slaves inspire me, and I am really thankful for them. They make my life easier and way more enjoyable. And it’s also very enjoyable to watch my subs grow into their role and experience every aspect of it.



What type of demands and orders do you usually give to your slaves?

They have certain general rules they must obey.

1. From now on I only accept goddess, mistress, lady or miss as you approach me

2. My word is law. What I say is done without discussion.

3. You only express your opinion if you are asked or have my permission to do so

4. A well-groomed appearance on your part is mandatory.

5. My wishes are 100% above yours

6. I don‘t wait

7. you don't look at me without permission.

7. Delays and violations of all kinds will be punished.


On top of these general rules, I give them tasks. They must clean my apartment once a week, always be naked or in costume. They have to polish my nails, buy me things, go grocery shopping for me, give me massages, serve vegan breakfast, brush my hair, which I love, function as human chairs or footrest. The tasks can be very random, depending on my specific needs. I’ve had slaves asking everybody at a party for weed because I wanted to smoke a Joint. I showed my slaves off in public many times. They brought me food many times. One slave dedicated his own version of „the Lord‘s prayer“ to me, his personal goddess, and I made him pray it every night for almost a year straight. Naked and on his knees. We both loved it!

Sometimes they must research something or do something silly for my amusement. One time I asked a slave to learn a TikTok dance choreography. I set a time limit of 5 minutes for him to study the choreography and then perform it on camera and wearing lingerie. As you can imagine the outcome was hilarious!


What's the most exciting moment you've had so far?

My most exciting moment was the first experience with a slave. A friend took me to her slave. He greeted me with a kiss one my shoes and called me „princess Sarah“He had vegan breakfast prepared and was sitting next to my friends feet while we ate.

My most fun moments are always showing off my slaves in public. Walking them like a dog, with a collar, leash, and everything. One time I asked my slave to bark at every stranger who walks by. That really amused me. Having them kneel in front of me and kiss my shoes while people are walking by is great as well. I love seeing their reactions. I’ve heard them say all different kinds of things!



As a master, what is the most important thing to keep in mind?

The three most important things are consent, communication, and knowledge. In BDSM there are many harmless practices but there are many things that need to be done properly. Otherwise, it could be seriously dangerous. Whatever someone wants to try they should research about it and test everything on themselves first.


What is your tip for someone who is curious about the master/slave role play?

Get inspired by people who share their fantasies. Figure out what you are drawn to the most and if it’s possible to experience it in real life. Sometimes fantasies just stay fantasies and sometimes you wanna make them happen.

If you wanna try any BDSM practices you must know about consent, safe words, and aftercare. And know what you’re doing. Communicate with your play partner about what you wanna do. If something doesn’t feel right say it and figure out whatever the cause is. Other than that, be open and playful!